Sometime this morning a commentator on my car radio ushered me across a personal tipping point concerning the semantics of the same-sex marriage issue, and of the whole public debate about homosexuality. I'm mad as you-know-what, and I'm not going to take it anymore. I guess I'd heard the word "homophobic" one time too many, and buzzer of sorts went off inside me.
The left has long pursued the strategy of gaining control of the semantics as early as possible in any public debate. Pro-abortion is pro-choice. Pro-life is anti-choice. Conservatives are members of the radical right who vote for fringe candidates. And so on.
According to the current media style book (which hasn't been challenged effectively from the right), there are only two positions one may hold concerning homosexuality and its related issues: one is either pro-gay (by the way, "gay" used to be a perfectly good word, and I never use it to describe the sad homosexual life) or homophobic.
This is where I get off. I'm not homophobic, and neither are most of the others who attempt to resist the runaway freight train known as "gay rights" (a term that ignores the fact that homosexuals have all the same rights as everyone else). When one is "phobic" about something, that means he is afraid of it. So the only two recognized positions in this debate are (a) I'm in favor of everything homosexuals want; or (b) I am afraid of them. I would like to stake out a new ground here. I am neither in favor of things like same-sex marriage nor afraid of homosexuals and their unhappy practices. Nor do I carry personal animus against individual homosexuals or wish them ill (it would be nice to see them return the favor). What I am is- gasp - opposed to the sin of homosexuality on moral and religious, yes, Biblical grounds. So I am introducing a new term into the discussion, one I dream would someday replace the inaccurate and loaded term "homophobic." I hereby declare myself homo-averse.
As a homo-averse man, I decry the practice of homosexuality, and oppose special rights for those who engage in it, including the oxymoronic "same-sex marraige." I do however, affirm the worth and personhood of everyone who is in that lifestyle, recognizing that every homosexual is a man or woman for whom Jesus died.
The President of the United States last week introduced a tortured, confusing and cynically political defense of the proposition that same-sex couples should be allowed to "marry." He astonishingly cited his Christian faith as a basis for his position, loosely referencing the Lord's Golden Rule, that one should treat others as he himself would want to be treated. I don't know about you, but I would like someone to treat me kindly by telling me the truth about something when the consequence of not knowing it could be a miserable eternity.
So here, my homosexual friend, is what Jesus really said about same-sex marriage: "Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female. For this cause (emphasis mine) shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they twain shall be one flesh?" (Matthew 19:4-5; parallel passage Mark 10:6-7). For this reason, the reason that He made them male and female, God instituted marriage. Marriage is God's idea, and while the state has a role in codifying marriage, no man or government has the authority to redefine what God has created. It's all about male and female.
The homosexual may feel then that he has nowhere to go in Biblical Christianity. But the Lord's mission on earth is nothing if not redemptive. When I say I am homo-averse, I mean that I am averse to the practice, not to the people. There is an old Christian saw - "Hate the sin, love the sinner" - that is not explicitly stated in a citable verse, but that is an accurate summation of the Christian's proper stance. In a seminal passage (1 Corinthians 6:9-11), the Apostle Paul begins by writing, "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolators..." He then lays out a shopping list of sins, including homosexuality, that will keep one out of heaven. But then comes the redemptive part: "...And such were some of you: but (emphases mine) ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." Wonderful. He reminds the Corinthian church folks that they had also been lost, but they had been redeemed.
So take up the homo-averse brother on the offer to come to Christ. One might say that Jesus is the most homo-averse of all in terms of the practice, but he is the least averse of all to you, the man or woman. His surpassing love for you was demonstrated as His life-blood spilled out on the ground under a violent Roman cross nearly two thousand years ago. A few millenia later, He still awaits your call. Invite Him in. He can take your life and make something amazing out of it.